A Woman’s Identity Crisis

In today’s world, women must step up to plate and decide what they will ‘allow’ from a man in order to determine the purpose that man will play into their life. For the sake of having a man, countless women have begun to settle for a new, watered-down versions of manhood. Yet these women long for much more. Not realizing that the low expectations ‘allowed’ from their men further perpetuate the downward trend of themselves.

One of the things that garners respect in the heart of a woman, which is a prerequisite to her willingness to submit to her man, is wisdom. A woman needs a man whom she can trust to make wise decisions. Head knowledge alone cannot make a man an effective head of the house, as priest and leader. Only a man who is able to seek the rich counsel of the Lord for insight can lead his loved ones wisely. God is the source of that wisdom. The Bible promises that those who know their God will be strong and accomplish great things! (Daniel 11: 32.)

The world says that behind every great man is a great woman. This is true. God has placed very specific gifts inside a woman that empower a man to be all that he was created to be. However, no man skips the process of transformation that must occur into manhood, except by his own choosing. All men must first be broken before becoming a worthy vessel that can please God and gain honor in the eyes of a woman.

One of the most beautiful things I ever heard a wife say about her husband was: “It feels as if God loves me through my husband. It’s almost as if he anticipants my needs and meets them before I even say a word.” Only a man who prays and hears from God can do such a thing for his wife.
Hammond, M. (2003). In Search of the Proverbs 31 Man

I say all that to say: Women it is time to get serious! Women need men who will seek God’s face and secure our future by their obedience to God’s instructions and thus securing a woman’s needs even when the need isn’t yet seen. A woman’s willingness to ‘allow’ a man to treat her with respect will help her gain self-respect, but her willingness to ‘allow’ disrespect from a man will diminish her self-worth and value that God has created woman for.